Discovering Who I am

 The media have been the biggest spreader of beauty standards of and perfect life. Advertisements, movies , social medias and a lot of other medias, show us beautiful people, with perfect bodies, thin and happy. We rarely see people with common bodies, common lives, gender and race diversity.

This scene of a prince and princess ideia, actresses and actors, all happy, accomplished, cultured and rich, leads us to the frustrated tries of perfect selfies and photos to be published, always after many editions and using filters, wearing best clothes and makeup, trying best angle, showing an image that sometimes does not reflect the person we really are.

How have you been expressing your true self? 

The “I” that exists inside me, has been my personal search for the past few years.  I think about it all the time, because when I evaluate myself as a human being in a process of growth, I also see this desiree in other people.  And I realize they are also on the same search.

The human being is full of doubts and “Who I am?” is usually the biggest of our questions. Throughout human history, the search for identity has been a constant: Know yourself, as say in the song “Who Are You” (The Who), or in the inscriptions of Apollo Temple.

Maybe, the difficulty in reaching a conclusion is due to the fact that we are in constantly changing. And that “I”, refers to the physical and emotional, with our thoughts, feelings and our actions.  Body, mind, feelings, actions, circumstances... everything changes all the time.

That's why knowing who I am is so complicated. It is necessary to dive into our deep self and unveil our truths, taking off our masks and delving into self-knowledge.  Some of us spend decades trying to find the true self.

 We can read dozens books of self-help and go to dozens therapy sessions, but if we don't allow ourselves to go beyond our limits, confronting ourselves, seeing whats confine us, we will never know the answer.

Our qualities, defects and habilities are important in the self-knowledge. Know what we like or dislike, help us to define who we are.

What drive you to feel scare?

This thought can frighten you because your choices and actions will be based on what you feel and think right at that moment, making you the protagonist of your story and there is no one else to hide from, nether of yourself

Show your weaknesses, doing all with heart but no felling fear to regret, fear of failing or judgment, of exposing yourself, or just to be not sucessful... yes, I know, there are many fears.

But I believe that biggest one, is losing yourself. Be in a point to not recognizing yourself anymore for trying to adapt you to what you are pressioned to be. However, when you face these fears, the change process begin.  Think about what makes you happy, who you want to be and how you want everyone to see you.

The big true is that you have to be afraid of not being you, of wear masks, use characters to please others.  Fear will always exist, but in a point of your life, it will stop to disturb you and a time, you Will like to be who you are so much, that you even remember the characters you used