My self is a composition of many factors, many beliefs and is a slow construction of our person, and we do it throug life. The texts I have writing for you have very comprehensive themes and converging to the inner self. In each of them I agree a principle, a characteristic, which helps us in this meeting, in the perception of who we are in essence.
In the last years of my life I came across the need to welcome my inner child, understanding that this process would be indispensable to solve internal issues, loaded for many years, and thus follow my journey in a lighter and more balanced way. This journey has been so curative that I want, if it allows me, to share my experience and help you in this enriching process. We will today a childhood trip, where past, present and future are in order to connect in time and space. Come with me?
Our personality and much of the beliefs are built when we are still small and so we can carry childhood pain throughout life, repeating negative messages that we may have heard from our parents, teachers and other people even when they did not have that intention. Now as adults, holders of more knowledge and discernment between things, we can access these memories, experiences and bring them as learning and building our ripening. When we access our repressed psychological and clean the limiting beliefs, resentments, fears, traumas and other negative feelings, let's '' teaching "our inner child to know the feeling of being loved, protected and supported, under any circumstance. Consequently, our adult self feels strengthened, supported and nourished emotionally.
Let's get with "what does it mean to be a child"?
Just like me, I believe everyone will respond that being a child is playing, making friends, studying and not having bigger worries. Being a child is to be authentic, light and cheerful. Really childhood is a stage of immense learning, equally unique and special for the child and parents, isn't? With all the potential and challenges that accompany it in this so brief and intense phase of life. And when guided and accompanied, the child is discovering and building his own personality! Each child is unique and you will agree that it needs much more than just being fed, dressed and protected by parents. She also needs access to a happy and harmonious home and feel comfortable to make choices.
Since being able to express yourself in a real way, have tastes and wills, until it is herself. We have included here, not less important, respect for all your emotions and possible blockages. After all, being a child is the act of blooming at all times. The 21st century childhood ideal brings the image of a happy, healthy and intelligent child who has the chance to develop his maximum potential since the beginning of life and, over the years, concludes stages based on studies and jokes. Being a child in the 21st century means having a series of rights such as education, health, nutrition and the fundamental right to life.
And it was always like this?
The story shows us that child is always a child anywhere in the world or in any historical period. What varies are adult attitudes toward it. We know, through studies, that in the Middle Ages the rate of mortality after birth were very high due to the lack of preparation to deal with childbirth and the first care. Therefore, the birth of a child at that time was surrounded by rituals and care for the baby to survive. Very common for families don't get attached to the baby as he could barely survive for a few months.
During ancient history, the child was submitted to his father's authority. In Greek and Roman education, the family was responsible for educating the children, considered useless and unable to have any autonomy. Like gestation and birth, which were supported by beliefs and rituals, education was based on the religious imaginary, not by science and rationality. It was faith oriented, held within institutions such as monasteries and cathedrals. In addition, as the child was seen as a family member who should help in the tasks as much as the older, the minor was facing a long work and often did not go to school. During maritime expansions, in the 14th century, the child was seen as a small adult who could serve as labor in the vessels. She was exposed to hunger, diseases, shipwrecks and wars. Already in the 16th century, a new conception of man in society has changed the way to face childhood. The child went to school and integrate a classroom, where he was polite with discipline and rigor.
In modernity, the child finally plays a significant role within society and leaves the anonymity. In the 17th century, with enlightenment, the first childhood conception arises. The adult begins to pay more attention to this phase of life and to treat it more carefully. It can be seen, therefore, that until the 17th century, science unknown childhood. This is because there was no place for children in this society. It was then, from protection ideas, support and dependence that "childhood" arises.
Being a child today
Between the 19th centuries and 20 has been created the first Statutes of the Child, which are a set of rules that determine their rights and goals for full development. Childhood became divided by phases and was created the concept of adolescence. In 1959, the UN (United Nations) approved the "Universal Declaration of Child Rights", which includes rights such as equality, free schooling and food.
Today, the child occupies a prominent place in society. A consciousness was created on the importance of experiences during early childhood. In order to be the best possible, there are a number of public policies and programs that expand the conditions for your citizenship. Mainly in the underdeveloped countries, the public power is still unable to ensure that all children conclude studies and be free from child labor, prohibited in Brazil. But the looks are aimed at appreciation of childhood and for their importance within society.
Healing the wounds of the past
So let's begin to understand that every child, without exception, felt wound at some point in his childhood. Yes, all. It is normal to find this statement but, according to several studies and research, is part of the evolution and life mission of each. Be the child from functional families or not, with deeper trauma or with quite healthy childhoods at some point she registered and interpreted a certain event in a negative way, causing him pain and generating an emotional wound. Love was not felt full, the expected support did not come, the necessary protection has not been given, the inclusion did not happen. This generates feelings of insignificance, disability, of non-deserve, of disamorce. And several blocks are unfolded from there, forming adults with questions of the soul that interfere with our fullness of life. It is worth noting that in this process there are no guilty.
Parents, for the most part, do the best they can within their physical and emotional capabilities. But as every relationship, we must understand that the needs of the other are not always our needs, and in this lives, the opportunity to look more closely at each other before doing something we deem correctly. Is it really what does the person need?
From the upcoming texts let's together analyze and seek to understand better about these locks. Let's try to bring this our inner child closer to us, understand it and heal it.
See you soon!
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